Full story, “My Lesbian Daughter, the Bible and Sex” at Fox News.
As hard as it is for me to believe it, Fox News’ website has a very interesting and level-headed opinion piece in response to Pastor Mark Driscoll’s opinion piece, “What the Bible Really Says About Sex.” Thankfully, it appears comments are disabled for opinion pieces, one can only imagine the kind of venom the author would have received. As I read through it I came to the realization that this is the missing key that so many fundamentalist Christians need to learn, that God should be left to sort these things out.
Shari Johnson begins by discussing how her 37-year old daughter came out of the closet in 2004, prior to her marriage. She continues by essentially taking the reader through the process she used to gain acceptance of her daughter’s orientation. By her account, upon asking God for help in changing her daughter, He instead changed her. She came to the realization that God was far more disturbed by her lack of love than her daughter’s homosexuality. Throughout the rest of her writing she touches on numerous religious topics that I think are really important.
- “When I hear terms like ‘God’s design’ and ‘Biblical marriage’ I have to wonder who decides these things.”
- “Our cultural adaptation of marriage has certainly evolved through the ages – had God not intervened, Joseph could have had Mary stoned to death for being pregnant with a child that was not his.”
- “…we keep a death grip on the scriptures that suit us – and the translation of those scriptures becomes more a matter of tradition, opinion and convenience than the Word of God.”
- “…those who are upset about sex outside of marriage are the same ones who are opposed to marriage equality.”
- “…principles for heterosexual marriage are the same for same-sex marriage – love, commitment, faithfulness, loyalty, honor and respect. How can we deny that to anyone?”
- “…my attitude traveling to the wedding was far different from my attitude on the trip home. God attends gay weddings. Who knew?”
The remaining few paragraphs of her opinion are where the real meat and potatoes are at. After asking a friend how she came to terms with the scriptures and her daughter’s homosexuality her response was, “I can’t. So I just let God sort it out.” What she says next really has a great deal of weight to it, “…I learned things about God I would never have known if I were still telling Him what His scriptures mean.” She continues by saying, “If we spent as much time obeying God’s two greatest commandments, which are that we love Him and love our neighbors as ourselves, and less time policing everyone who is different from us, imagine what a world it would be.”
Shari closes with a question everyone should ask themselves from time-to-time, “What if I’m wrong?”